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Does That Mean “NO”?

Here is a story of a mom in my class who learned a new skill to not engage in a battle with kids when they’re protesting a limit. That skill is called going “brain dead.” This works with kids of all ages. See what happens when she uses it to neutralize the “buy it for …

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Teens Discipline

Just Say NO

We don’t have to convince our kids that we have valid reasons for saying NO. It’s ok to “Just say no.” Recent text stream between mom and 14 year old son: Kid: Can I go to chad’s after school Mom: No Kid: Y Mom: Insufficient grades, make up work to do. Application to complete. Oh, …

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Talking About Tragedy With Kids

A GUIDE FOR PARENTS, CAREGIVERS, AND TEACHERS  Children and youth can face emotional strains after a traumatic event such as a car crash or violence.1 Disasters also may leave them with long-lasting harmful effects.2 When children experience a trauma, watch it on TV, or overhear others discussing it, they can feel scared, confused, or anxious. …

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How Do I Get My Kid To Do The Dishes?

First, it is important that children contribute to the household. Not only does it send an important message to our children – “You are a valuable member of this family and we count on you to make our family function” – but it gives them a sense of accomplishment and self-worth.  Studies also show that …

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Energy Drain: Consequences for Children

Would you like your life as a parent to be complicated? Would you like to live in a constant state of confusion and anxiety? Would you like to feel unsure about how to deal with the problems your children create? Would you like to frequently think to yourself something like, “Oh, no. Now what do …

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Disarming Defiance

For parents who deal with children being obstinate, defiant and challenging, here are a few thoughts on power struggles: If we deal with resistance by struggling back, not only will we damage our relationship with our kids and set them up to be rebellious, but we will be very frustrated.  It is a child’s JOB …

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When Kids Complain About Their Teachers

How does a wise parent respond when his/her youngster says, “My teacher is mean!”? Because we care deeply for our kids, there are two traps that are far too easy to slip into: Trap #1: Mary’s well-meaning mom says, “Don’t worry, honey, I’ll give her a call and get this straightened out.” Is Mary learning …

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Can ADHD Kids Learn, Remember, and Behave?

Q: Can kids with ADHD really learn, remember, and behave? A: ABSOLUTELY! Q: What’s the secret? A: Use the very same techniques proven effective with kids who don’t have ADHD. Q: Are you kidding? A: No! Here’s why. Children with ADHD have the very same behaviors as children who don’t have ADHD. They just display …

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Be Careful About Taking Away What Your Kids Need the Most

When we’ve got a seriously underachieving youngster, it’s awfully tempting to resort to taking away all sorts of things in a desperate attempt to motivate them to do their schoolwork. Sadly, this often backfires, leading the child to become even more resistant about learning. Most of us wouldn’t feel that motivated if our spouse said, …

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