Category: Toddlers

How Nana Nixed the Naughty Word

Little kids can be clever. It’s fun to make them put their brains to work.

One mom told me her son had gotten into the habit of using an unacceptable phrase. All her lecturing and punishing didn`t work.

Then he made the mistake of using it while Nana was babysitting. Now Nana, being your typical grandma, was always telling him how smart and wonderful he was. Because of this he tended to be extra good for her. That is, until the time he said it, “Oh, %*@#.”

Nana didn`t lecture or punish, she simply said, “Oh my, I don`t play with boys who use that kind of language. What do you think you could say instead?”

After much thought he came up with some clever alternatives: “Oh crud.” “Oh shoot.” “Oh man.” And Nana`s favorite, “Oh criminy.” Not a real word, but they liked it. They laughed as he said it over and over.

He had to put his thinking cap on to come up with it, and that`s what Nana wanted. She wanted him to think before he said things that would get him in trouble.


Jim Fay
©2009 Jim Fay, Charles Fay, Ph.d.& Love and Logic® Institute

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Head & Heart Parents is owned by Kerry Stutzman, MSW, a Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Love and Logic Parenting Instructor. In addition to private therapy and parent consulting services, Kerry offers parenting classes and workshops in Denver and the surrounding areas for toddlers, elementary, and teenage children.

As author of the easy-to-read “Save Your Sanity” series, Kerry helps parents save their sanity and sense of humor while raising young children with love and laughter.

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Giving Choices Can Be Fun!

I almost always do a lousy job of giving choices when I’m tired, frustrated, and trying to think of them on the spot. Are you like me?


I’ve seen how much smoother life becomes when I give appropriate choices…but for some reason I get out of the habit.

Someone gave me a gift! She walked up to me at one of my seminars and shared this little nugget of wisdom:

I make giving choices into a game for myself. It’s fun when I plan ahead. First, I think, “What things will my kids try to fight me on tomorrow?” Then I look at my list. You see, I keep a list of Love and Logic choices folded up under my alarm clock. I just pick a couple. Then I imagine how much nicer my kids will act when I give these choices the next day.

It’s true! Any technique is more fun and effective when we plan ahead and look forward to our kids acting up…so that we can use it.


Dr. Charles Fay
©2009 Jim Fay, Charles Fay, Ph.d.& Love and Logic® Institute

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Head & Heart Parents is owned by Kerry Stutzman, MSW, a Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Love and Logic Parenting Instructor. In addition to private therapy and parent consulting services, Kerry offers parenting classes and workshops in Denver and the surrounding areas for toddlers, elementary, and teenage children.

As author of the easy-to-read “Save Your Sanity” series, Kerry helps parents save their sanity and sense of humor while raising young children with love and laughter.

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